Do you, like me, often find yourself living in fear? Isn’t it easy to think the worst case scenario will always happen?
In conversing with a man I met at a retreat house, he gave me good food for thought and something I know I need to work on personally. He said that through the years he tries to live by reframing his thoughts from living in fear to living in love. I believe that is a very wise way to live. This is from a person who has experienced great loss in his life.
Live by reframing your thoughts and life from living in fear to living in love.
What is it like to live in fear?
Aren’t we often overcome with anxiety, obsessed with making the ‘perfect’ decisions, and concerned with scarcity?
Living in fear can lead to paralyzing us to not take action to change our trajectory–thinking we can control things to achieve the perfect outcome. We are also less apt to take risks.
So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. –Isaiah 41:10 (NIV)
God does not want us to live in fear! God is always with us. He provides the strength and help we need. We are the ones that need to actively choose to let go of fear and replace it with faith in God. He works everything out for our good, even the seemingly “bad” things that happen in life.
What is it like to live in love?
Don’t we know that God, who is Love itself, takes care of us, helps lead and guide us, and provides in abundance for us?
Living in love can lead to surrendering our will knowing God can make good of anything. We should be open to grow and experience more things, and accept who and how God made us.
All who declare that Jesus is the Son of God have God living in them, and they live in God. We know how much God loves us, and we have put our trust in his love. God is love, and all who live in love live in God, and God lives in them. –1 John 4:15-16 (NLT)
What beautiful encouragement to know that we can live in love! God is love, and once we believe in Jesus we too have God (Love) living in us; therefore we can live lives of love. How beautiful is that?

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How can we reframe our thoughts and life from fear to love?
See ourselves as God sees us.
But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light. –1 Peter 2:9 (NIV)
We are God’s chosen people; His special possession. God has allowed us to see the Light, Jesus, so we do not have to be in darkness. If He thinks so much of us, do we have any right to not do the same? We belong to Him!
Focus on connections and serving others.
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. –Philippians 2:3-7 (NIV)
As we step more from fear to love we shift our focus more to others. Because of Christ in us, we want to share that goodness with others. He was the perfect example of a loving servant to others–even you and me, through His willingness to die on the cross. We can love and serve others daily–even through a simple kindness like offering a smile.
Change our thought process.
Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. –Philippians 4:8 (NIV)
How often do our thoughts slip back to fear rather than faith? We are exhorted to think on the things that God has sent that we know are true, noble, right, pure, lovely and admirable. Paul shares the key to reframe our thoughts and lives.
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Consider two examples of how to reframe our thought process from fear to love:
*Fear-based thought: I cannot partake of any ‘bad’ food because I can’t stand to look in the mirror.
Love-based thought: I choose to treat my body as a temple of the Holy Spirit so I will choose to consume healthy food.
*Fear-based thought: I cannot let go of past mistakes that I made because God will never forgive me.
Love-based thought: I know life is a journey and that we all make mistakes. God forgives us because of His great love for us. I can forgive myself knowing I made the best decision I could at the time with the information I had.
Be encouraged this week to…
… live in love rather than fear.
… write out two attributes that you need to believe about yourself that God says about you.
… serve others in humility thinking less about you.
… think about the truth of God’s Word.
REFLECTION:
What is one specific thought you can reframe so that it changes from fear to love?
What is something you need to forgive and let go of about yourself?
For God will never give you the spirit of fear, but the Holy Spirit who gives you mighty power, love, and self-control. –2 Timothy 1:7 (TPT)